"Where there is creativity, there is hope." ~ Donna Karan

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Spreading The Sticky Note Love Part 3- Reaching The Bloggers

Last year as a part of Invisible Illness Awareness Week in September, with the theme 'Each One Can Reach One', bloggers writing and sharing their experiences about life with chronic pain set out to place encouraging sticky notes in public places in an effort to encourage and inform those who live with chronic invisible illness that they are not alone. It was about validating a persons pain and spreading a message of hope-anonymously. Words are so powerful, and the fact that it can only take one note to change a life moved me. 'Each One Can Reach One' but I wanted to reach more. As a blogger myself, at times, I feel as though I am writing to a brick wall. Some days and even months comments have been few and far between and I have found myself at times wondering if I am making any difference, are people even reading? I have on many occasions almost hit the delete button- but something has kept me going. There have been countless days when I have felt stuck in a dark pit feeling so discouraged and I wonder how many other bloggers are feeling like this also. It was at that moment when I was feeling so discouraged that I knew that just sitting back and waiting for people to encourage me wasn't working, neither was it going to. I needed to reach out and encourage others, and so over the past four months I have been 'spreading the sticky note love' to bloggers. I have been visiting all the blogs on chronic pain and illness I can find (there are way too many, still so many I have to visit, it's going to take me a while!) and have been leaving encouraging comments. Encouraging people living in chronic pain is something I am so passionate about especially seeing as I can relate and empathise, and I'm hopefully even turning this into a massive blog campaign shortly. While I've been leaving encouraging comments, I have been amazed at the amount of bloggers who are writing their hearts out who have received no comments (and some of these bloggers have quite a big following!) This really breaks my heart. Blogging about pain is such a brave thing to do, and when you get no comments, let me tell you- it hurts. A lot. In regards to some awesome blogs I've been following (and the ones I'm still yet to come across) I've been making an effort to make sure that bloggers have at least one comment per post. Sure, it's not possible to do all the time, but surely with the amount of followers some of the bloggers have at least one person should be reading. Maybe the lack of comments is due to the fact that people don't know what to say, but really it isn't that hard and it only takes a few seconds of your time. Find something nice to say, encourage them, tell them they are doing a great job- be creative! This is something that I have been and will continue working on doing (it can be hard to keep up sometimes)- and the encouragement that I have found just by leaving an uplifting comment has greatly enriched my life. I must say though that I've learnt to comment without expecting replies and while most people do reply there are quite a few who don't (pretty rude if you ask me). So bloggers, if you do happen to get a nice encouraging comment from me or someone else- please reply. Yes, your in pain, I get that but if you are writing lengthy blog posts than surely the least you can say is 'thankyou'. It takes courage and effort to leave an encouraging comment and to not hear back is really discouraging (I feel a blog post on blogging etiquette coming on!)- enough said. So, if you are reading this and you're a chronic pain blogger and I haven't yet stopped by your blog and left a comment (and you would like me to)- leave me your link in the comments section.

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I personally also want to take the time to say thank you to my readers and followers who have left me comments consistently and sent me beautiful emails- it really brightens my day. The fact that you have taken time out to read a post and leave an encouraging comment means so much to me and really makes those bad pain and fatigue days just that little bit better, so thank you from the bottom of my heart. I encourage you to reach out and spread hope to the hurting by 'spreading the sticky note love' to the bloggers. Your kind and encouraging words may mean that instead of spending a whole day in tears, they spent a whole day smiling- because of you.


Oh and PS- You can read part one of Spreading The Sticky Note Love here. To read part two click here.

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W said...

Hi there! Thanks for following my blog and I wanted to say you are inspirational. Even to those without chronic illnesses. You're striving for better and trying to spread it around. The world needs more people like you! =)

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful post and mission! I think it's an admirable goal, and one I hope folks appreciate.
I try and respond to folks' comments (although sometimes it takes a while). What hurts me is when I've left a comment, and like the outsider looking in, other comments are responded to, but not mine. Now, I might be a stranger, or maybe you don't like me, or I'm not one of your special friends, maybe I used too much of my own experiences or made it too personal (eg. I know what it's like when . . .; When I tried to . . . ); maybe my comment is too long (like this one)but I did stop by, I did try to leave an encouraging comment; an observation; a good luck wish.
I check the "follow the comments" button when it's there as I am interested in seeing what tapestry the threads of comments weave. So, I know when I've been ignored. These experiences make me feel like not commenting anymore anywhere -- even those blogs where the author does "get back" to you. Being left out; ignored hurts in the virtual as well as the real world. We all want to feel a part of somethng; and comments left on blogs, or responses to those comments help with the feeling of being part of a community of folks with chronic pain and chronic illness issues.

Emily Ruth said...

W- Your welcome! I've been looking for some great Christian blogs and yours is awesome! Thankyou so much for your lovely comment, that made my day! Thanks for reading Xx

phylor- Thanks again! I couldn't agree more, it's happened to me so many times and it hurts! People don't realise that there personalities come across in how they run there blogs too. Yes, it's not always possible to reply all the time but some people are just so darn rude and in my eyes there is no excuse for rudeness. I usually don't bother following blogs if they can't be bothered to respond or if I'm ignored. The rudeness of some people amazes me, it's not hard to show a bit of common courtesy! Thanks so much for all your comments, they are very appreciated :)

Jamey Spain (greenleafmassage) said...

Thank you so much for this post! You seem like such a cool person. I am just learning of your blog (from chronicbabes). I will start reading now! This is really encouraging and I applaud your efforts. Hope to be in touch more. If you want to read my blog (I've been quiet the last week on it--new pain and er visit--this week--though writing in my journal and painting as able so not giving up!) my site is www.healingplayground.net

I am just starting to familiarize myself with others blogs, but hope to make reading others my start of the day ritual and don't worry--I will leave comments because I know how much (as you said) it means to me when others do the same.

Emily Ruth said...

Thankyou for the lovely comment Jamey! You've made my day!I'm glad you found it encouraging. Thanks so much for stopping by. I'm always looking for new blogs to read so I shall be sure to check out yours when I get a spare moment. Thanks for the link! I'm looking forward to reading it. I hope you have a much better week!

Judith Westerfield said...

I love your post.

It echoes what I thought many times.
I will say that I am often one of those who doesn't comment. I follow so many blogs and I try to limit my time on the computer.

Your post made me reflect and I will try to at least leave a "word" or two.

Emily Ruth said...

Thankyou Judith! There are so many great blogs, it's hard to keep up! I don't comment all the time, it's just impossible and I never used to be one to comment either. When I finally got the courage to start leaving comments, I found I couldn't stop!

I've found that leaving encouraging comments helps me to deal and cope with my pain and I've heard some really great feedback on just how much it made a difference to a persons day, so I thought I'd encourage others to try and do the same. I've seen some brilliant posts lately and no one is commenting and it makes me a little sad, so I try and set aside a few minutes a day to at least comment on one blog- it really brightens my day to know that I've encouraged someone else.

Thankyou so much for stopping by and leaving a comment, I really appreciate it, when I've got the time I'm looking forward to reading some more of your blog- I love it- it's brilliant!

Amy said...

you are doing great and I really want to agree with the others that have commented. you are inspirational! Keep up the good work my dear xx

Emily Ruth said...

Thanks darling!


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